mr grey had the potential to be a normal well adjusted human being until some older woman got her hands on him and bdsm'd him into a damaged person. he then passed this damage onto his virginal assistant thereby fucking her up for the rest of her life.
there is no erotica in that. only abuse and damage.
yet females talk about this story like: i found the book so erotic, i wouldn't mind someone tying me up ..
the amount of people thinking they wanted to give bdsm a go increased after this book hit the markets without people having any understanding of a few key (vital) points.
1) bdsm has certain rules and codes the parties must adhere to such as a code word for STOP i'm not enjoying this!
2) studies shows that 99% of those who participate in bdsm are using it to deal with sexual trauma of some type. e.g. a female who has been raped now goes into bdsm relationships with men where they are tied up and controlled because this gives her a (false) sense of security. as apposed to having her sexual trauma treated professionally. using bdsm in this way .. she will always remain damaged.
empowerment does not equal control over others. if you have the need to control others you are not in a position of power and what you're doing won't give you that power.
empowerment equals freedom and equality.
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