Wednesday, March 27, 2019

you're more than just your sexuality

i've seen this so many times in adults who were abused as children. believing that sexuality and sex is all they have to offer. believing that sex is love, sex is how you show love, be loved.

i want to go up to these people, give them a big and hug and tell them they're so much more than that. bigger than that. take away the sex and there is an amazing person who has so much to offer the world. it's just lost under the 'personal truth' they've come to believe about themselves.

Friday, March 8, 2019

i am no angel

i am no angel i like it when you do that stuff to me
i am no angel i like it when you talk talk, dirty when you talk talk
kicken heels, lingerie, pantyhose, foreplay
leg up, on the bar, in the back of your car
latex, champagne, bubble bath, whipped cream
cherry pop, tag team, can you make me scream
i wanna do some dirty things to you tonight
i wanna fly, all through the night
something or other, blah blah, tickle me, slippery
g spot, nasty pose, in a video
love machine, by myself, climax, hot wax
s & m, on the floor, i like it hard core
can you go down, are you up for it, baby
can you turn me out, are you up for it,
talk to me, talk to me, talk dirty to me

there's a lot in there i don't mind. not sure what turn me out means? sounds painful and i don't do pain. i do enjoyment. there's somethings in there i wish i did more often and some things i wish no one did - at least publically. says she writing a blog about sex stuff.
like tag team, yeah maybe but only if it's respected and she's treated like a person and not some piece of shit with holes to stick things into. more than one guy can get rude as soon as they share, make out she's a tramp for agreeing to do something they all wanted to do. the more guys the more disrespect. so yeah if it's a case of them being accepting of her having the desire for it as much as they do, then good. if not then anger wells. it's not ok to want to play tag team then hate women if they like it too. no need to shun, talk down to, gossip about and treat like pond scum after the fact. you wanted it too remember.

guys can't seem to respect the woman for the numerous things they want from her. for example men who won't do raunchy things with their girlfriends / wifes because they see those actions as slutty or whoring. the kind of thing only dirty girls (like this singer) would do. what a pity we're differentiated like that, seen as some girls being dirty for liking kinky sex, while others are pure and clean because they like the standard model.

i here this song and feel like i want to agree with where she's coming from but instead i cringe because i know girls who like what she's saying are not respected and her singing about it doesn't make it respected. instead people hear this song and think of sluts, hookers, porn stars, dirty girls. as apposed to females simply enjoying their sexuality.

of course if wonder how much of what she sings is actually anybodies sexuality (without already being preconceived by upbringings laced in female sexual objectification).