memory is not fact

you think maybe that person didn't like you when they did. or that other person liked you when they didn't. somebody bullied you and when you confront them they don't even remember you let alone all the pain they put you through. parents hurt you, call you names, abuse you and when you confront them when you're older they can't remember doing it and deny it ever happened. you thought they were crushing on you big time & it was something really special, only to find years later they hardly remember you and think you're nuts for still giving a shit. you think you remember it so vividly. you think the other persons does too, in the same detail as you. and they don't. someone comes up to you and asks you why you did this or that and you can't recall doing it, while to them they remember it like it was yesterday. memory is not truth, it's not always accurate, it's not always fact.

she's no more ho than the bro

heard the story about a girl who went down on a guy at a festival. it's all over the internet. what a ho she is. a slut. people bagging her out. bullying her behind computer screens (cowards and hypocrits as though they've never sinned in their life - and is it a sin?)
a lot of talk about double standards.

she's a ho because she did that to him. he's just a bloke taking it like a man. he's the hero who got a blow job while she's the skank who gave one. personally i fucking hate blow jobs, hurts my face to give them so good on her for being able to give a man something i have no great desire to.

there's talk about her doing that in public. gotta be some sort of tart to pull that shit off. well what about the guy getting the blowy in public. why's he not shamed and blamed for being some shanky ho piece of shit? he obviously wanted it. no one around at the time had a problem with it. they were all happy for her to do it. now that it's done everyone's got some thing against her.

ok so her daddy won't be proud (who knows, maybe he doesn't give a fuck). but are his parents any more proud?

let's turn the tables a bit. there are guys who would say no to a girl doing that to them in public. why is this guy different? what it is about him that makes him say yes when others would say no? what it is about the bystanders that make them say it's ok (at the time)? are their morals lacking? then again is it really that big a deal morals need come into play? why is it not ok for her to like giving oral sex but ok for him to want it? because it was done in public? yes, but he did it in public too!
why are we shocked that she did it (and evidently, trial by social media, shouldn't have). yet we're not shocked that he did it (but evidently should - you go bro!).

assuming we don't hate gays as much as sluts would it be any different if two blokes were doing it? who would be the slut then? maybe they both would because we don't like gays either. so pretty much if you're not a heterosexual male getting the blow job -- you're a piece of shit society wouldn't wipe off the bottom of their shoe.

60 odd years ago both the girl and the guy would have been shamed and blamed for being caught doing something like that in public. it would have been humiliating for both, parents and society would have hackled them both. today only the girl gets shot down in flames, bullied, harassed. the guy is a rock star.
obviously guys think it's ok to get blow jobs at festivals so it stands to reason girls might also think it's ok to give them. the reasoning that makes him think it's ok is the same reasoning she thinks so too.

point is: there were two people involved so why just pick on one? there were stacks of voyeuristic bystanders, why aren't they to blame? why aren't they perverts deviate pieces of shit for watching the free peep show?

before hanging a girl and labeling her a slut how about looking at all the factors involved in how a situation like this came to pass.

the natural order of things

i had a conversation with a man who told me women were put on this planet as a thing of beauty, to be admired and revered by man. he said all men know what other men are like which is why they're protective of their daughters and girl friends and wives and want to rush out and buy shot guns. men know it, they deal with it. it's the natural order of things.

men are confusing what they're doing, how they're treating women with admiration and being revered. man knows what he wants when he thinks of himself being revered. it's being good in his field, it's being a good man. it's not getting shoved over and done up the ass.

if all men revered women in a good positive way, the way men want to be revered, there would be no need to get your guns out. instead of 'dealing' with it repetitively deal with it by changing the status quo.

if we're going to talk about the natural order of things let's also talk about how women are wired. we like to admire men equally as much. if a man walks past us shirtless, or handsome, or smiling, or fit and even young. we like to take a gander.

we watch our favourite tv shows because there is someone there we admire, someone we like, looks, personality, humour. it is a fact that many men intrigue us and we are not all prone to just fancying one. this doesn't mean we're going to rush out and fornicate with every man we like, just as men don't with the women they 'admire'.

women admire the male form just as they admire ours so why aren't they offering themselves up to be revered in the same way? after all it's just the natural order of things.

is man really king of the beasts?

people talk of man (this includes women) being the most adaptable species on the planet because we can build sky scrapers and research cures for aids. we have electricity and cars. we can move water. we can make children for those who otherwise wouldn't be able to have any. we can outsmart other animals who are faster, stronger and more dangerous (debatable) than us.

we're supposedly more enlightened, more intelligent. we've come a long way in what we've developed and created for ourselves.

yet we're still so unevolved.

for all our smarts we haven't figured out pesticides are bad and killing off the bees. well, we do know it and we're still doing it anyway so how clever is that?

for all our smarts we still haven't figured out how to plant crops in a way that doesn't wreak havoc on the land which then stops new crops from growing. funny because we knew how to do this before.

for all our smarts we still haven't figured out large chemical companies need to be shut down. that chemicals in all our stuff isn't actually good for us.

for all our smarts we've failed to keep pornography in check. even now when we know the damage it is having on society we'll still keep going. how clever is that?

for all our smarts we're yet to realise sexual objectification against women is harmful to society, that rape and porn culture are harming the way we treat women and children. but let's keep it going because it makes money. for all our smarts we haven't realised the 'money rules' thing is wrong.

for all our smarts we fail to see that censorship needs to exist otherwise let's just bring back public hangings, burnings and be-headings.

for all our smarts we've failed to keep sex-trafficking and human slavery in check. in fact it's growing and we, in all our infinite wisdom, are failing to stop it.

for all our smarts we cannot fathom that factory farming is cruel and unnecessary and no profit is worth that kind of pain and horror.

for all our smarts we still haven't figured out greed is wrong. we still have't figured out there is enough to go around if only we shared and we haven't figured out a way to entice people to share, a way that forces people not to be greedy.

for all our smarts we haven't figured out a decent school system. one that teaches our children how to treat others respectfully, one that teaches them about the wrongs of bullying. we're more focused on math and english and not on ethics. one that teaches our children real sex education. not just how to stick a condom on and where the penis goes but how to know if a girl is ready, how to actually have sex in a decent and respectful manner.

for all our smarts we haven't figured out a way to live that doesn't damage the environment and the planet. we haven't figured out a way to live that doesn't damage each other. we haven't figured out a way to live along side one anther peacefully.

maybe man is king of the beasts because he is the best and being beastly?