guys and anal sex

what is it with guys and anal sex? they're so driven to want to do it to girls but heaven forbid we want to do it to them.

when i asked my bf if i could do that to him he was repulsed and said 'yuk i'm not doing that'. 'that' like it's some really disgusting thing to do. something only a lowly female would do. some shit ass person who is beneath him .. he's above that shit.

he crapped on about exit only, men aren't made for that blah blah blah.

what he's really saying is coz i'm female i am made for that and there is no 'exit only' with women - a seriously misogynistic thing to think.
he wants me to do it and not just do it, but readily do it, enjoy it, want to do that for him. coz he wants it, he think i should do it, coz i'm female,  and just naturally want to please the man.

i know there are chicks out there who like it, enjoy it, it turns them on and they can climax that way. i also know there are chicks out there doing it out of obligation coz their bf is in the mood for sex but doesn't have a condom and doesn't want to risk pregnancy (or he thinks her butt is sexy), selflessly, so he can get his rocks off.

i don't 'not' enjoy it. it's not that it bothers me or i'm prudish in that way and have a firm belief in exit only. what's ticks me off is he won't let me do it to him in return and acts as though anal sex is a really lowly thing for him to do. i asked him "if it's a low thing to do then then why are you asking me to do it?" he fell silent and I felt enraged.

i'd do it .. if the man would do it too. i won't be anyone's lowly female doing 'that which is too disgusting' a man just won't do it. hypocrites!!!!!!

males seem to think because they have an appendage that will benefit from the use of the female ass we should do it for them; but we should not have the use of their ass in the same way because we have no such appendage.

i know there are girls out there who can relate to this.

free the nipple

there is a free the nipple movement and i can see where they're going with that. why are men's nipples ok and female nipples aren't. in fact why are men's chests ok while female chests are not? of course the answer is we've turned female breasts into sexual organs and once something becomes a sex object it must remain hidden for fear it will turn people on. sex and the public supposedly don't go together (but generally sex and the public go hand in hand for advertisers).

“It is illegal for women to go topless in most cities, yet you can buy a magazine of a woman without her top on at any 7-11 store. So you can sell breast, but you cannot wear breast, in America.” – Violet Rose

men were once not allowed to go around topless and they protested for their right to do so and a year later they could.

there are those who might assume women could do the same right now, however, there are a couple of serious things to consider.

1) when men fought for chest rights they were not sexualised so their nakedness was not a threat to other men or how they might be treated (i.e. groped, raped etc.), and men were allowed to go around topless in private i.e. around the house and backyards (this is not the case in many instances for women)

2) women are highly sexualised in the media which would impede our ability to go around topless without fear of being victimised (i.e. groped, raped, shamed etc.)

3) men grope women's breasts in night clubs, on beaches, where ever they damn well please because they can, they have the power and we've created a lovely thing called rape culture, thus women being topless around men would add to their desire to attack us and victimise us

4) we shame women's bodies at an alarming rate, if you don't look a certain way - have acceptable nipples, acceptable breasts, acceptable bodies (and ideal placed upon us by men) people berate you and treat you like you have no right to exist let alone go around half naked (even though unattractive men can)

5) the vast majority of women feel insecure about their bodies, if they went around topless and got harassed or berated the protest wouldn't work because we'd all go running for cover - and the protest cannot work if only women deemed acceptable win the fight to go around topless

6) the protest can only be done by those brave enough to go around topless and weather the treatment we'd endure for putting up this fight

7) due to the nature of the sexualised breast it would take women longer to win this war and even if we end up being allowed to expose our nipples this won't guarantee we'll be equal to men as a result and without a doubt all those exposed nipples/breasts would be photographed and end up on social media without our consent

where is everybody?

when people kill themselves you always hear other people saying, they shouldn't have done it, there is always somewhere for them to turn. it doesn't feel that way. i've been down for weeks. my friends know it. i've talked to them about it. my beau knows it. they don't do much to help and it feels like i can't ask them for help. when i ask something of them, like come for a visit, they pike out or say no. there are a couple who will come at the drop of a hat if i need. but i realised something today. i want fun, joy, happiness, laughter. there isn't much of that in my world lately. there hasn't been in ages. the people bring the laughter and if they're not around there is none. i do stuff by myself and can enjoy that. it's not laughter though. maybe contentment, but not laughter.

the fragile mind

the previous night they had, had a conversation about her depression. she had told him she'b been feeling down for 4 weeks now. he asked if she was down because of things he'd done. she explained how the depression was there first, and some of the things he did added to her negative thoughts, leaving her feeling more morose. he was sweet about it, gave her a hug. wanted to hold her that night in bed.
that night, before the conversation about her depression, he'd shown her an article '10 ways (for guys) to know if you're bad in bed'. it listed things like skipping foreplay, forgetting about her orgasm, she's faking orgasms, she's not making any noise, she's making too much noise.
she had said she could relate to all of the points to some degree. he was surprised yet showed no signs of resentment towards her remark. the article had said men think about sex all day while women think about work and dinner and someone who cut them off on the way home and not sex so much.
the following day she asks him if he thinks about sex all day. he says not all day, just sometimes during the day. she asked him what types of things made him think about sex. he told her, seeing an attractive woman up the street.
it might be a harmless comment. the type of comment any one could take like water off a ducks back.
but in that moment her mind had gone kaboom! on top of all else that remark hurt her in a way she couldn't' described. gutted came close. she didn't know why, only that on some basic level she would have much preferred he'd said something she did made him think about sex.
she wished she didn't have such a fragile mind and could laugh it off as 'that's how all people roll', it's nothing. and yet her thoughts had imploded and the depression got a little bit darker.

controlling us with food

there was a story about the chubby boy from the goonies, saying he was 80s fat. now our fat kids are uber fat. back in the 80s companies had started to control our food, what we eat, what's available to us, how much sugar we eat, where we can get our food, who supplies it, what adds and shows we see that make us want to eat what they say is available to us. years and years later control of our food has been squeezed to breaking point and so have our bodies. it makes me feel like we're being control with food and other means so that we end up unable to actually move or run or fight for the things we should be having / lives we should be living.

that girl who says it's ok for your bf to hit you

here's what i have to say about (name) and her rediculous message about girls should let their bfs hit them. it's a sign of love.

firstly dr phil handled her well, he posed questions to her she couldn't answer without perjuring herself. he said she was a hypocrit for wanting money from the bf who'd hit her, saying she'd drop the charges if he gave her the money. dr phil said she was a hypocrit for saying it's ok for him to hit her then wanting money from it, setting him up and lying to the public.

i thought she was more hypcritical because she charged him.

love, if it's ok for your bf to hit you, why did you charge him in the first place? is there a limit they can hit you? if so don't put up some video crapping on about how he didn't you hard enough so you broke up with him, because it means he doesn't love you enough.

she got caught out under dr phils intellect, research and whit. in the end she had no come back. when he announced something about her childhood she walked off stage. public conversation ended.

did she take the video down? apologize? admit she was a douche? admit it's not ok for a girl to be hit by her man, not ok for anyone to be hitting anyone. that it's all cock and bollocks when she says she dumped him because he didn't hit hard enough.

patricia arquette speech

so much talk about her speech saying it was racist and gayist and all that jazz. saying it was just privileged white chick playing victim when what the african americans are dealing with is so much worse.

some dude (or dudess) made a video about it using statistics on how bad they've got it and i don't deny it. it's shit. it's cock and bollocks. but .. one's person suffering doesn't denote another, even when it happens more often. that just proves the shit is bad and needs fixing.

nowhere in patricia's speech did she say what others had gone through was trivial. what she did say is we've (mostly and many women) have supported people in those positions, minorities, the mistreated, hard done by people. we've supported the down and out. we've fought for them.

to my mind, the only way to succeed it is to join together. all of the misfortunate. join in and say the same message. it's not good enough. i love hearing about the truth of what is happening to others and i'm glad that dudess put it out there. it gives us knowledge and something to fight for.

don't fob the white chick off because she's white and doesn't suffer what and how you suffer. she still suffers and understands suffering and wants change just as much as you do.