judgmental

yes or no? i've been accused of being judgmental, that is: the act of assuming something about a person based on something about them. i'm not really judgmental, as in opinions aren't set in stone, i don't force my opinions one others - only explore them, and i don't dislike a person upfront. i'm willing, and most often do, give people the benefit of the doubt.

i don't judge others against gay marriage however i do believe it's an acceptable thing we need to fully explore. i don't judge others who are overweight though i do think this is something we need to fully explore. i don't judge others for taking their clothes off although i do thinks this is something we need to fully explore. i don't judge religion, gender, race, societal standing, looks ..

when i say there is an issue with objectifying women i don't mean that men who enjoy a look-see are a bunch of brainless douches who need to have their penises chopped off. when i say rihanna and the like are playing with fire i don't mean that females who do that are lower than or less than.

it might surprise people to know the underlining processes behind my views.
firstly, we're told it's necessary and needed and a normal part of being human (men need it, women want to be it). that it is understandable and perfectly ok [to objectify women]

• if a female is coerced, forced, drugged, verbally persuaded, has money held over her head, held against her wishes, is not making an open, free choice
• if a female is raped, hurt, tortured, permanently mentally or pshycally damaged
• if a female is verbally abused, demeaned, put down, called names

i'm yet to understand how that is perfectly ok ??

• if a man knowingly enters the situation knowing any of the above to be the case - how is that perfectly normal?
• if a man knowingly watches when the above is the case - how is that perfectly normal?
• if a man knows this shit is happening and doesn't give a shit - how is that perfectly normal?
• if a man knows this shit is happening and thinks it should because women are pieces of shit to be used and abused - how is that perfectly ok?
• if a man profits off the above happening - how is that perfectly normal?
• if a man knows this shit is happening and stands back and does nothing, while claiming to be one of the good guys - how is that perfectly normal?

unless you're telling others to respect their toys / entertainment [how some men see women] / or lose them, why are you in it and ok with that?

it's not good enough just to say women have the right to work in the industry therefore men have the right to accept their offerings .. while awful things are happening within the industry and you've got your head in the sand. how is that perfectly normal?
how is it that someone is being judgmental when their view is based on a person's welfare? are you watching women in the industry because you're looking out for their welfare?

i'm not saying you're an asshole for wanting to see raunchy, seductive, sensual, naked women .. yet i have a hard time with a person who engages in something that ultimately hurts women somewhere in the world - no matter what .. saying their actions are perfectly normal because women have a right to be there.