speed fines do they work, cont.

when i accidentally ran the red light it was after 11pm and there was no-one, zero cars, on the road with me at the time. the intersection was completely empty. can't help but wonder what would have happened if i'd planted the breaks and stopped over the line. would the camera still go off, or is the speed i'm travelling also a factor (since the camera goes off when the sensors detect a car crossing the line after the light changes).
i've got 3 seconds after the light turns orange to cross the line, and 3 seconds after the light turns red until the other lights turn green.

the irony is the car accident that happened to me, and the reason why i needed a new car, happened because a p plated, novice, driver saw a red light camera at the lights and panicked. the light turned orange, she spotted the red light camera (on the other side of the road for on coming traffic, not us) and planted the breaks.

she didn't follow the golden rule they teach us when taking driving lessons, never stop suddenly without considering all those behind you and weather it is safe to stop without causing an accident.

the only person who saw her do this was the 4x4 driver coming up behind her. that driver managed to swerve into flowing traffic while the car directly after the 4x4 noticed the car in front breaking too late. it, the car behind it and myself all came screeching to a halt .. too late. one by one we hit her from behind, forcing her car out into the intersection, where the other traffic had to avoid hitting her.

we were in the middle lane of a 3 lane hwy and all the cars to the left and right of us made it safely through the intersection long before the light turned red. we were the only cars left at that intersection, any witnesses to say the p plater would have made it safely across the intersection if she hadn't panicked were long gone.

the red light camera at this intersection was the cause of a 4 car pile up. not a serious (resulting in death) accident but a bad accident none-the-less. one women involved in the accident was heavily pregnant and i (like the others no doubt) suffered bruising and damage to my joints that pained me for months. the camera may save lives but it causes more accidents.

the irony is i copped a 300+ fine for my red light incident. this p plater had no charge and was considered not at fault. the police who attended the accident said there was no way any of us could have stopped in time. there is no way to prepare yourself for a panicked driver who plants the breaks in an 80km p/h zone.

speed fines do they work

within a year+ of getting my next car i copped 3 fines. mostly i put it down to learning the new vehicle and how it works.

once was when i accidentally ran a red light. yes accidentally. my friend was directing, said turn here, so i slowed to turn, then she said, no this isn't the turn keep going. so i accelerated. as i did the light turned orange and i wasn't going slow enough to stop on time. the car kind of lurched forward as though the press of the accelerator was slow to start and then it was on.
i went to break, knew i would stop over the line so kept going. next thing it's paparazzi and i'm driving down the red carpet. chick chick chick. cameras lighting up.

next was when i was over taking a slow ute driver doing 75 in an 80 zone. he'd been driving slow for kilometers. finally i had a break in traffic and accelerated to move into flowing traffic. trouble was it was a down hill slope. again the accelerator went vroom. and there i am, paparazzi again, doing 85 in an 80 zone. chick chick.

next was ages later driving through town at 60 trying to figure out why my cruise control won't work. i kept pressing cruise on, then pushing the button up or down to set the speed at 60, let go of the accelerator and my speed creeps up again towards 70. i try again and again and again, pressing up and down and around and round. still when i leave it to the car to stay at that speed it creeps up. next thing paparazzi pop out of nowhere, flashing cameras at me like i'm a super star. and i get done for 68 in a 60 zone.

you've got to be kidding me!

what each of those stories have in common, that a stagnant camera on a pole and those who reap the rewards don't care about, is there was never any intent. surely intent has to play a part if it's to be considered a crime.

use to be police had to follow you for 3kms before booking you because they had to know you were deliberately trying to speed. not some accidental press of an accelerator or an inability to work cruise control or stop in time.

on a road (just one road) that generates $20 million a year for the government, there are 2 cameras along one stretch of road only 7kms apart. my friend got done twice in minutes of each other for doing over 100km along that road. got done twice! that's like pulling someone over and giving them 2 fines for the same crime.

so not only do they think people with no intent are criminals, they also book those 'criminals' twice for the same crime. and all because the government has gotten drunk of the lucrative rewards those stagnant (let's take a 1 second view of a person's life and pretend to know they've committed a crime without giving them the benefit of the doubt) cameras bring in.

some times the world is a shameful place to live.

open your eyes people

my eyes have been open since i was a little girl. i knew that i was being told my place, my lot in life was as some object to be used and sexualised. everything around me told me that my place in life was to be sexy because that's what men want (only they don't really want it because they're no respect for it). tv shows, movies, mags, men's clubs, advertisements, signs, porn, men talking about women. it all pointed to one thing: that females are there to be owned and used, just like a car.
now some decades later the shit has hit the fan. the shit i saw coming when i was a little girl. all this over sexualisation of women has created a ferocious biological entitlement of men.
men now seek out porn, hookers, sex trafficked women and children, free, cheap, easy, dirty sex at ridiculously phenomenal rates. all because of something i saw coming as a child. if only i'd had a voice. if only i could be heard. if only i would be listened to. but i'm just one person. one mere woman in a sea of seedy lecherous greedy men who will sell our souls for the all mighty dollar. and a hundred million other seedy lecherous selfish men who will buy our souls for a moment of cheap thrills.

if only they'd rise up and say no. if only men and women would rise up and stop buying into the ill treatment of women. if only they'd stop buying and watching porn. if only they'd stop watching any and all shows that portray women as sex objects (i.e. under belly, game of thrones, and all those other hundreds of derogatory movies) if only they'd stop paying for and being strippers and sex workers. if only they stop buying mags, including women's mags which are all about feeding us the beauty myth. if only they'd stop buying sexist t.shirts and sexualised clothing. if only people would get a clue and learn to fight the system that has enslaved us and made women and children sexual commodities and men sexual slaves to the system.

come on people .. open your eyes!

fat shamming vs fat acceptance

i can understand people's desire not to be hated on for being overweight or obese. no person should be hated, shamed, mocked disrespected for their appearance. 

there is movement towards plus size models and photographers taking pics of women of all shapes and sizes. the diversity of women and men's preferences for different women is being highlighted more and more, as we move away from the standard model the press has set us to believe is the ideal.

but .. is being overweight or obese really a body shape / type, or the outward signs of an uncontrollable addiction to food?

body shapes for women are pear, apple, athletic etc. you can get skinny pears, medium pears and overweight pears. yes women come in all shapes and sizes but not sure if obesity should be celebrated or supported. isn't that just the corporations who make us this way winning? or is it us fighting back and reclaiming our rights? are we saying 'you made us fat now deal with the fall out as we become the new norm'?

if we did something similar like photographed women of all different types of addictions would we be as celebratory if the women were heroin addicts, alcoholics, gamblers? and what of over weight or obese men? are they equally celebrated or supported?

i'm all for people not being mistreated for how they look. at the same time claiming that overweight and obese people should be ok'd by society as somehow some new norm is not a good thing. 

people in this condition are struggling, miserable, unhappy .. otherwise why turn to food to hide the pain you're feeling? 

being gay is not a sin, hating them is

some religious people actually believe being born gay is a sin. some believe it's a sinful choice made by adults. some believe satan has gotten in to them and made them gay, an abomination, sinners to be persecuted, hated, hunted down, killed. i think IF satan has made them gay it's because he wants to insight hateful riots by seeing how many people will be filled with anger, hatred and judgement. thus, those who hate them are the sinners buying into satans evil game.

but alas i don't believe in satan and i don't believe being gay is a sin. i also don't believe they choose their sexual orientation any more than heterosexual people choose theirs, or any more than people choose their skin colour or their race, or any more than women choose to be women (i.e. the lesser sex in the eyes of others).

no one chooses something that will be hated and disliked; to do so goes against the laws of self preservation.

if you consider jesus (jehovah, allah, whomever you follow) was hunted down and persecuted because others wanted him dead, because they didn't like the peaceful message he was spreading - a message we were meant to learn from .. hello!!!!; then why would he want us to be doing the same (hunting down and persecuting) gays in name? he wouldn't. if your god could see you now he'd be so angry that his name is being used to insight such hateful bigotry, just as he was deeply saddened when whites when to church on sunday then hung negros from trees during the week.

no god wants you to hate. no god wants you to judge. no god wants you to be filled with anger or fear or the kind of evil that has people hurting others because they don't agree with them. to have any of those feelings in your heart is a sin. you are sinning if you do and feel that way.

remember god tests us .. and he has created man in his image .. therefore it stands to reason that gays are here to test YOUR spirit. are you failing god's test?!

sex is shameful

we make a big deal out of sex. a super big deal. especially, but not just, female sex. it's not ok to be a teen acting on your new sexual desires*. you can't explore that sexual desire. if you like to have 2 lovers, you will be enjoyed in the moment then disrespected after the fact. if you enjoy one night stands you're a sinner, a skank, a ho, someone cheap, someone giving out for free. regardless of the fact that sometimes you meet and the feeling is just there. certain deeds are just wrong. men can't enjoy anal sex coz that's for the weaker sex. men can't just enjoy the female for the wonderful gift she's giving him (he wants it and is happy to meet someone who doesn't mind doing it) without slanging her afterward for being cheap, a slut, easy.

so many rules. so much shaming. so much telling females they're wrong if they supply the demand. so much telling females they're guilty if they pleased many men when those men wanted that from them. men are quite happy to use the female body but when it's over they'll disrespect her spirit. girls are happy to have that (easy) girl at the party yet have no respect for her after the boys have chewed her up and spat her out. where is their anger at the guys for being such assholes, users, disrespectful?

*even though it is ok for adults to shove their sexual desires down throats of babes

guys and anal sex

what is it with guys and anal sex? they're so driven to want to do it to girls but heaven forbid we want to do it to them.

when i asked my bf if i could do that to him he was repulsed and said 'yuk i'm not doing that'. 'that' like it's some really disgusting thing to do. something only a lowly female would do. some shit ass person who is beneath him .. he's above that shit.

he crapped on about exit only, men aren't made for that blah blah blah.

what he's really saying is coz i'm female i am made for that and there is no 'exit only' with women - a seriously misogynistic thing to think.
he wants me to do it and not just do it, but readily do it, enjoy it, want to do that for him. coz he wants it, he think i should do it, coz i'm female,  and just naturally want to please the man.

i know there are chicks out there who like it, enjoy it, it turns them on and they can climax that way. i also know there are chicks out there doing it out of obligation coz their bf is in the mood for sex but doesn't have a condom and doesn't want to risk pregnancy (or he thinks her butt is sexy), selflessly, so he can get his rocks off.

i don't 'not' enjoy it. it's not that it bothers me or i'm prudish in that way and have a firm belief in exit only. what's ticks me off is he won't let me do it to him in return and acts as though anal sex is a really lowly thing for him to do. i asked him "if it's a low thing to do then then why are you asking me to do it?" he fell silent and I felt enraged.

i'd do it .. if the man would do it too. i won't be anyone's lowly female doing 'that which is too disgusting' a man just won't do it. hypocrites!!!!!!

males seem to think because they have an appendage that will benefit from the use of the female ass we should do it for them; but we should not have the use of their ass in the same way because we have no such appendage.

i know there are girls out there who can relate to this.