are you really a good person

when you speak to people and ask them if they think they're a good person, a caring person, a descent person, most will say yes. they think because they care for their friends and family, defend their family, look after their children, wives, husbands, pets. brothers, sisters etc. that they're good people. they think they're the kind of people who don't deserve to go to prison or be prosecuted and at the end of the day their head hits the pillow and they sleep easy at night.

those same people may do any of the following:
watch animal crush videos, watch child porn, watch porn in general (dehumanizing), bet on race horses that are fed drugs to make them better yet damages their bone structure and health, watch dog / cock fights, verbally coerce girls into having sex with them when they don't want to, go to a party and let others rape a drunk girl, try to have sex with a sleeping girl, hate muslims, hate other races, hate gays, hate sluts, abuse members of their families, cyber bully, visit asian child sex brothels, talk about raping girls who friend zone them, bet on camel races that use child slaves, want to take exs for all their money, use the children as leverage to hurt each other in a divorce, lie and back-stab other people, accept factory farming and animal abuse, rape and pillage the earth for profit, rape and pillage the community and people for a profit .. the list goes on. the list of ALL the things we people do in a day, accept in a day, don't fight in a day, and still class ourselves as descent citizens.

i put it to you that you aren't nearly as descent or a good a person as you think you are. in fact you're really just another asshole swimming in a fetid sea with other putrid assholes. and those assholes make you feel less of an asshole because they're just as shit as you are.

porn and you

it isn't fun being me. isn't fun being the only one among my friends who is outspoken about the damage of porn. the only one who can see it for the bullshit it really is. my friends say things like 'the girls choose to be there for the money and stuff so why is it wrong to watch it'. most men i know with wives and daughters would hate for either to say they want to be a porn star yet see it as ok to watch someone else be one. if i told my friends i was a porn star, aside form thinking i'm a hypocrite, many would judge me as less than. my family would disown me even though i'd hazard a guess that some have watched porn in their life time. men who are interested in porn would suddenly take the wrong kind of interest in me, assume i'm no longer human and up for anything and everything. in the very least ask about my movies and hope to see them. yet they'd hate for females they know to be in the industry. is it ok to accept an industry you wouldn't want to do yourself or have others you know take part? i don't think so.

then again being the type to want someone you know to be in the industry, like dads who pimp their children out as child porn victims, trafficking your girlfriends or pimping out your girlfriends so you can make money isn't ok either. it isn't being open minded if you're doing it for ulterior motives, like bragging to you mates about your girlfriends job, or hurting the person just to make profit.

for the most part noone really chooses to be a porn start. little girls don't grow up saying i want to be porn star when i grow up. those who choose this industry do so because they're desperate for money. being desperate for money makes your actions a decision not a choice. many in the industry are abused, hurt, tortured and dehumanized. anyone thinking it ok to support this industry by watching, buying and sharing it is an asshole of a human being and needs to understand the repercussions of buying into this industry. an industry they don't want their own loved ones doing, an industry that hurts those they're watching. buying into this makes them not a nice person no matter how decent a person they think they are.

yet my friends don't get this. they think i'm a prude, that i'm judging them for liking porn, that i think i'm better than them because i don't buy into it. i'm not a prude, i don't dislike people who like porn - i just wish i could make them see it's not an descent humanitarian thing to be into, to do to others, and i kind of do think i'm better than them .. better educated at least. because i know shit about the sex industry they all choose to ignore.

friends grow distant because my views offend them (only because they know they're guilty of buying into it, or know someone who knows someone. we all know someone) but the bigger picture is girls are hurt and damaged by this industry and if we are really descent human beings we wouldn't allow that to happen by purchasing or viewing the shit.

it's dictatorship not democracy

the suffragettes did well getting women the right to vote. they fought the system for a long time to get the right to vote. they wanted women to get a say in what happened in the world. up til then women were quiet.

im sure the suffragettes didn't give us that right to vote so we could do so little with it. voting is meant to be the public talking with the government about what they want and why. we find ourselves in a situation where that isn't happening. and still we're quiet.

off the top of my head i could raise a handful of topics that the public don't like. nothings being done about them. rarely even hear about it half the time.

there's a rule in qld that enables companies to own coal lines on any farm. so tv tells my friend who tells me. i'd believe it. and i believe it would be the kind of thing they'd hide. fracking and the dangers of it. all they care about it getting rich and easy fuel. bastards.
kind of sick of corporations being able to do what ever they want if the price is right. this being something our government allows and something we don't fight.

we didn't vote for that. we don't want it. and there's many instances like that. i din't vote for mr murdoch to become ridiculously, no ceiling ever, rich! at our expense. i didn't vote for any powerful man or woman being able to do that.

i didn't vote for all my vegetables to be sprayed. where was our agreement. the agreement that specified which chemicals you're spraying without lying to the public about the effects?

i didn't vote for fake make-it-live-longer stuff being added to my food. how did my life get so taken over. how did any of our lives get so taken over. even the edlestines of the world lives have been taken over. they're ruled by greed.

in oz it's compulsory to vote. can you believe that. we get a fine if we don't vote (how ironic they should use the word fine - as though all is fine with getting a fine). if we chose that neither leader will suffice with a no vote we have to pay. pay what? what are we paying for? someones time to run a vote at tax payers expense? paying for the right to say NO i don't want you and what you stand for you gutless piece of shit.

being forced by fine is dictatorship. it's you saying 'you're doing what i told you to do'. i want a system where the public is told what is being done openly. and we get to chose which bits we want. ask us.

asking us is a democracy.

its ok to like sex

bedroom eyes

it’s ok to like sex, be interested in it, want to do it. many others do. and nothing i say here is to imply you shouldn’t or can’t.

if you're someone who speaks out about sexual treatment of people, some will say it's too prudish, too hypocritical, too rude, to anti men. yes i've had bad times with men and i've wondered a thing or two about them but i don't hate all men. i like men. i’m no prude. sex happens. it’s fun and something many like. i enjoy the act as much as the next (when it's done well).

it doesn't disgust me. i don't' think we should be celibate. there's nothing wrong with having a libido. i don't think it should be bland or dull. games are fun, dress ups are fun.

if you do too good on you. if you don’t good on you. whatever and each to his own.

the line is drawn when you’re showing it to the whole world coz somehow that validates your like for it. i don’t give a rats ass if you like to watch or like to show. do it so that only you guys know. trust me when i tell you not every one needs to or should see it. these days it seems you all can’t fucking not show us, even those too young to view are seeing and showing. it’s private and adult and that’s all there is to it.

there are lines to be drawn and everyone knows what they are even if they pretend they don't and hide behind labels like 'normal'. bullshit and bollocks. sharing, showing, and not ready by age, relationship or prepared .. are lines in the sand. you all know not to cross them and are just pretending you don't. you think all people, young and old, want to look, need too look, should look.

like it for all you want but draw those lines in the sand!!!!!

upper class white chick privilege

i'm an upper class white chick. i've worked hard to get from my poverty riddled childhood to where i am. some of it is fluke. right place right choices. most of it's been keeping my wits about me, planning for the future, chasing the goals.

i'm one of the lucky ones. had access to an education, was genetically blessed with smarts.

for all appearance i'm living the life. i'm everything socially acceptable in the world. slim, pretty, nice car, nice house, money to spare. and yet when it comes to sexism i am middle rung on the ladder. above me on the ladder sit straight white men, gay white men, straight coloured men, gay coloured men. straight white men of course rule the world and get pretty much everything they want when it comes to sex. gay men don't have as much respect or power but they still get more than white females, if it wasn't for gay men we'd never see nude men.

men in my world see no inequality compared to them and me. even though they get paid more and have better superannuation. even though they have strip clubs where the girls go all the way nude while the best i get is skimpy jocks for $10 extra entry fee. they get to watch movies and shows where the slim pretty women are often nude to some degree while the men i see are dressed, and so fat and ugly you want them to stay dressed (picture the full frontal nudity in the latest Denzel movie while he, over weight and middle aged, hides behind a bed sheet - see even there a black man is getting more than me .. because he's a straight high paid male). i get to sit there watching these nude women, watching the men be aroused and stimulated, while i feel uncomfortable and resentful.

even with all my 'supposed' privilege i still don't get full frontal male nudity and in all my years of living things are getting worse in that regard, not better. straight men get to enjoy the naked beauty of females and get to add all their privileged bullshit excuses about why they get that and i (we women) don't. men have higher libidos, sex sells and men are more visually aroused. no! sex doesn't sell. only the sale of women does. sex sells because men get paid more and men get what they want! it's all bullshit excuses designed to keep me and others in our place.

so image then if you're a female of colour, some other race aside from white. you get even less privilege, even less rights. i feel bad for women coz if i'm as good as it gets for us women and i still have little rights compared to men then how the hell are my sisters meant to rise up and prosper?

black bitch ho

in my country aboriginals aren't treated as well as white folk. their health is pore. their education drop out rate is high. many live in poverty. they die much younger than white folk. they're accused of being shop lifters, of abusing their women, of being alcoholic dole bludgers scabbing off the system, of urinating in public (dumb since that also describes many white folk).

i can't say for sure what is going wrong but i've wondered what can we do to make their world a better place? how can we actually make a difference?

i imagine it's much the same with people of colour in america struggling to be equal with white folk and yet...

if our aboriginal brothers and sisters began to make it up the economic chain towards a better life only to disrespect their women folk i'd be outraged. and this is what we see happening with african americans within the american music and media scene all the time!

video after video made by black american males and females featuring their women in disrespectful sexual objectification and referring to them as bitches and hos. what the!!!!! how is this ok?

i remember oprah talking about the things that go on in the african american music world, saying pretty much that it is what it is, can't fight the system. left me speechless really because a lady in her position could make a difference had she gone against whomever she wouldn't go against, when making her statement.

why fight so hard for your freedom and liberties just to take away those liberties from your women?

lupe says it well in his song.

and this lady sums it up perfectly

why feminism doesn't work

the quick answer is coz no one agrees on what issues to battle. or what to fix first.

got women who believe women should be fighting for equal rights to go around topless like men or let women wear what ever they want even if others find it offensive or confronting. got women who think we should be modest and cover up even though others find that oppressive. got women who don't believe women should get equal pay because women take more days off to to deal with children than men, periods and other girl stuff. got women who think we shouldn't be telling other women off for being overtly sexual. got women who think overtly sexual is empowering an equals power over men (in some cases that is survival mode). got women who think all men are assholes who need to be shut down and ruled over. got women who like being controlled and dominated by men, who think that is a woman's natural role. got women who think 'if you like it you shoulda put a ring on it' and taylor swift songs equal teaching women to be weak and need a man. got people who think women already rule the world and just pretending that men call the shots because it works in their favour to lie about that. [if that's the truth somebody should let me know.] got women who think other women complaining about not being equal is bullshit 1st world problems. got women who think how we're living now is us finding and expressing our sexuality. got women who see that as man tricking us into thinking that is our sexuality. got women who think other women shouldn't breast feed in public, but it's ok for their men to visit strips clubs. got women who think we shouldn't talk about weight or body issues and not discuss what a healthy average really is; they think this is going against each other instead of helping each other.

how can feminism work when there are so many issues people don't agree on?

imagine of a woman thinking it's empowering to be overtly sexual