who she'd become

She didn't like who she'd become
sitting alone in her room
music on
drinks a plenty & stuff
lipstick on

Wishing

Pretending

She was out dancing

Oh what fun she’d have

Swaying & groovin’

But

She was alone in her room’

Listening to music

Dancing here & there

Daydreaming ..

She was out dancing

Daydreaming depressed her

It was not as fun as

The real thing

Really dancing!

So she drank a plenty & stuff

To drown out her sorrows

the evolution of nudity

around 7 million years ago we separated from our chimpanzee cousins with whom we share 98.4% of our genetics.  by the time neanderthals came along 100,000 years ago we were wearing clothes, even more so by the time cro-magnon came along.

as we evolved with bigger brains, smarter tools, clever inventions, large cities .. clothing became a necessary thing for survival.  not just to protect us from the elements but also protect us from each other.  even those who live in hot climates still wear some form of protective clothing such as loin cloths and basic skirts to protect / hide the groin area.

think about it, if any man, woman or child walked through our populations naked they'd be harassed in some form or another, maybe people would take photos of them without their permission and post them on facebook pages like 'festival sluts' (yes pages like that exist), maybe people would try to grab and grope them or covet them.  either they'd be seen as inappropriate, offensive or sexual.

over thousands of years humans developed clothing to protect us from unwanted and unwarranted attention from those with whom we have not pair bonded.  we pair bond, just like other animals such as birds and gibbons, with kindred spirits whom we feel comfortable enough with to raise children together with or spend the rest of our lives with (until divorce or death do us part).  without clothing we'd not be giving that person something special and personal of ourselves with which to bond.  sex and nakedness with our chosen partner(s) is what ties us together, what bonds us to each other and makes us want to protect and look after each other.

since the 70's sexual revolution man has decided that he'll grant us (females) the freedom to be sexual on his terms, by making female sexual revolution about females as sex objects for man's enjoyment.  women are highly sexualised and this is also becoming more prevalent of men as well.  so in the space of under 50 years we have changed thousands and thousands of years of evolutionary survival (clothing), to humans (mostly females) wearing very little i.e: bikinis, free the nipple, pornography, music videos, lads mags, strip shows .. the list goes on.

it's no wonder we haven't been able to cope with the fall out from this occurrence, less than 50 years is not enough time to get our heads around such a dramatic change to our very being.  the very act of removing our clothing threatens our survival (in particular the safety of women and children).

for e.g. i worked with a man who liked to watch russian women do sexual things with horses and he'd laugh about how their abject poverty was the reason they were so desperate to do horrendous things like that.  in cases like this pornography is harmful to women and threatens our safety.  

in countries such as germany men and women can attend public spas together naked and say this is progressive, open and accepting of nudity, yet violence towards women is still rife there, as is sexual objectification, prostitution etc.  it hasn't lead to women being on equal footing to men or being more safe because they are equally allowed to be naked around men.  quite the opposite in fact: since prostitution is legal in germany sex trafficking is rampant because the need for male sexual gratification is rising along with financial greed (by those trafficking people).

as objectification of the masses rises the list of offenses towards humanity (and animals caught in the cross fire) also rises.  there are a million and one examples that could be given about the damage being done to humanity due to the sexualisation of people, and there are people who would argue that we are being progressive and accepting of sexuality by allowing sexual vulgarities to take place.  

but you can't change thousands and thousands of years of evolution in under 50 years and expect people to be able to cope, especially something so key to our safety and survival as the humble invention of clothing.  think: sex addiction, fairly new to our society and only occurring in countries where objectification of people occurs.

train story .. abusive boy friend gentle girlfriend

i didn't pay much attention to the couple sitting adjacent to me on the train. our seats faced forward and didn't face each other. beside i had my head buried in a book.

when i first heard the scuffle and looked up i thought the girl had almost dropped her bag and her boyfriend had quickly reached for it. then i saw the look on her face, her body language and saw that she had jumped into survival mode. been there, done that .. know what it looks like.

the boyfriend was grabbing the bag aggressively because she'd said or done something he deemed inappropriate and it instantly made him angry. though both quietly spoken he was having words with her, threatening and telling her off. he made a sign to hit her but didn't. she flinched. he kicked the back of the seat in front of him then stood up. she flinched again. he stood over her for  while having more quiet words while she waited to see what he'd do next.

he left the train for a little while but came back again this time standing over her trying to get his angry point across .. how dare she or what ever he was angry about. she was trying to stay strong and not cower too much but i could see she was afraid of him, afraid of setting him off, afraid of what he would do. i could see she knew what he was capable of and this worried her.

i prodded him in the leg and told him to stop, leave her alone. i stood up behind him asking him to leave her alone, even gently grabbing his arm to get his attention. he turned to me with the kindest face, the kindest look, and told me it's not my business. i asked him to move away, not to hurt her.

another lady was on the other side of him telling him if he didn't leave his girlfriend alone she'd call the police. another man stood and got his phone out in the ready.

during all this the girl friend held his large hand with her dainty hand (she was slim yet tall), rubbing his hand, softly telling him to calm down, all is well. neither raised their voice and neither voice was legible (strangely). their body language and actions said it all.

the boy friend left the train carriage and moments later she followed.

when they got off the train many stops later they were walking together, him hugging her as she walked.

i spent the rest of the night (and days that followed) afraid for her, hoping he wouldn't hurt her that night and that she'd be safe. worried that she would stay with him and not know her true worth - not know that she deserved better than that. and he deserved to get some anger manage help and learn to treat her like the gift he knew her to be.

bad girl, dirty girl, dirty talk, dirty bitch, freak

if sex is normal why are girls given bad degrading* names?

why not call us amazing, awesome, best, fantastic?

of course like every coin there is a flip side which is chicks who don't mind, *and even like, to be called those names. they wanna be known as a freak in the bed (me too sister). but let's be real, it's not like we're off-setting that side of the coin with the more inspiring side of the coin. like being awesome in bed.

why are we something gross (like slugs) if sex is perfectly normal for girls to do?

we use the word dog in reference to a person who cheats because dogs sleep around and are not sexually loyal.

we see people who are con artists as cockroaches or rats, because they can't be killed and they're a germ fest among society.

if y'all (guys) want girls having sex to be ok you should probably come up with some more flattering names, names that reflect that fact that us having sex with you is a good thing - not dirty, bad, freakish or bitchy.

all muslims are terrorists

all muslims suck, they're terrorists who marry under age girls, force their women to cover up, stone their women to death, come to other countries and stop christmas and national anthems...

they invented gonzo porn, torture porn, rape porn, revenge porn, festivals sluts, and songs that say 'i'll give you something to split your ass in two'... oh no... wait... that's us.  we do that.  us westerners.  us white & black men.




we terrorize our women because they dare to friend zone us, get girls drunk at parties so a group of guys can raped them, rape and sexually harass collage girls, rape 12 year old girls in public while people stand around watching, rape drunk 14 year old girls and film it to share around, then let our guys off when they rape our women because it somehow isn't their fault they're rapist...



75% of the worlds porn is made in the US, gonzo porn, the worst most sickest fuck to ever exist, is a US invention... pornography is a US invention (larry flynt) and there are a million billion non muslim men watching this shit... we create violently sexual / sexist shows like got that reinforce the rape culture we are perpetuating, we use our female performers sexually to titillate and make copious amounts of money for men....


crush videos, bdsm, sexually explicit music videos, sexism towards girls/women, sex trafficking (made worse by western men within the UN), king hitting, gun massacres... all these terrorizing things western men do...

while crapping on about how bad muslims are.  me thinks it's a case of the pot calling the kettle black.

open letter to pitt bull cuban amercian singer

i'm pretty sure after listening to your song international, pitbull, that you're into prostituted and trafficked women (girls). a bold statement i know! but let me explain how i've come to this conclusion.
 
once upon a time i heard the song throw your hands up and liked the song and the other spanish singers and thought you were alright.
then i saw your video don't stop the party with you, dressed, with naked women rolling around on a bed with you. straight away i knew, urk, this guy sexualises women and i wished i could take your cousins, your mother, your grandmother, any sisters or daughters you may have, aunties, nieces and put them naked in your video clip and see if you like how it feels to exploit your family members instead of other women.
sexual exploitation of women so you can make money. yuk!

your song international is you bragging about how much money you have and how many women you've had. money and women make you a success in your mind.

"100gs for sure
touched down everywhere
hit a home run everywhere
in romania  she told me pitt you can have me and my sister
down in dr they're looking for visa's i ain't taking credit cards if you know what i mean
en cuba la cosa esta dura but the woman get down if you know what I mean
en colombia the women got everything done but they're some of the most beautiful women i've ever seen
in brazil they're freaky with big ol' boobs and their thongs, blue yellow and green"

the countries list above are pore countries where women are forced to sell themselves sexually for money just to survive. quite often they're forced into prostitution and trafficked and here you are, pitbull, admitting you've been with women who are so desperate for a new life they're having sex with men in hopes for a visa. cuba, your home country, where the women get down (i supposed that means go down on you) and you're okay with using them in this manner because you get to them write a song about what a man you are because you've got money and this pays for you to have sex with women all around the world.

how about you stop treating women like they're your sexual playground and put some of those 100gs into stopping the abuse and sexual exploitation of these women. you made it out of cuba now go and help other women trying to escape extreme poverty instead of using your money as power over them. 

racism vs sexism

got is a popular series with lots of people talking about it at gatherings, on the internet, social media and such.

if got contained such words like nigger, boon, ching, redskin, gook, wog, a'rab, towel head (you get the picture) or if it contained outright threads against these people .. there would be an uproar. the only people who might like the show are racist caucasians who think that type of thing is funny or appealing (basically the type of people who watched romper stomper and saw it as a guru movie to follow and live by). people of colour on the other hand would hate the show no matter 'how great the story line'*.

the reason why there would be an uproar is because people of colour band together and agree on what is racist. think back to breakfast at tiffany's and the depiction of the stereotypical asian man.

mikey rooney's depiction of a stereotypical asian man vs sexism

where as women and men don't agree on what is sexist / sexism.
- people say *yes got is sexist and gratuitous but it's got a great story line.
- my son reads playboy or watches porn because it's normal for a young man to want to know about sex and the female body (even though porn is a terrible way to learn about sex / the female body).
- it's normal for men to admire the female body.
- i don't mind if my partner goes to strip clubs, i'm not jealous.

anti-sexism doesn't have anything to do with normality or jealousy. it is purely about treating men and women the same - just as anti-racism is all about people being equal.

it may be perfectly normal for men (and lesbians) to want to admire the female form and delight in full frontal female nudity - i.e. the (original) shining and devil's advocate. but where are the men walking towards the camera in all their naked glory? the only time i've seen this is in a helen mirren movie (go helen!) and even then the guy was not sexualised and the nudity was not gratuitous.

you never go to a male strip club and see men dancing around on table tops in g-strings, ladies going up and sitting at that table for a closer dance where the guy moves around removing the last bits of his clothing while she places money in his garter belt .. let alone getting a fully naked private dance with him in a private booth. the best the ladies get is the likes of magic mike (and even then the movie contained hits of gratuitous female nudity even though it was supposed to be aimed at women!). do you think there was any gratuitous male nudity in the shows strip tease or show girls?

people need to start getting on the same page when it comes to sexism and the basic rule of thumb is if you're not doing it to men then doing it to women is unequal and by definition sexist.

if we don't agree on what is right and fair and we can't win the battle.