train story .. abusive boy friend gentle girlfriend

i didn't pay much attention to the couple sitting adjacent to me on the train. our seats faced forward and didn't face each other. beside i had my head buried in a book.

when i first heard the scuffle and looked up i thought the girl had almost dropped her bag and her boyfriend had quickly reached for it. then i saw the look on her face, her body language and saw that she had jumped into survival mode. been there, done that .. know what it looks like.

the boyfriend was grabbing the bag aggressively because she'd said or done something he deemed inappropriate and it instantly made him angry. though both quietly spoken he was having words with her, threatening and telling her off. he made a sign to hit her but didn't. she flinched. he kicked the back of the seat in front of him then stood up. she flinched again. he stood over her for  while having more quiet words while she waited to see what he'd do next.

he left the train for a little while but came back again this time standing over her trying to get his angry point across .. how dare she or what ever he was angry about. she was trying to stay strong and not cower too much but i could see she was afraid of him, afraid of setting him off, afraid of what he would do. i could see she knew what he was capable of and this worried her.

i prodded him in the leg and told him to stop, leave her alone. i stood up behind him asking him to leave her alone, even gently grabbing his arm to get his attention. he turned to me with the kindest face, the kindest look, and told me it's not my business. i asked him to move away, not to hurt her.

another lady was on the other side of him telling him if he didn't leave his girlfriend alone she'd call the police. another man stood and got his phone out in the ready.

during all this the girl friend held his large hand with her dainty hand (she was slim yet tall), rubbing his hand, softly telling him to calm down, all is well. neither raised their voice and neither voice was legible (strangely). their body language and actions said it all.

the boy friend left the train carriage and moments later she followed.

when they got off the train many stops later they were walking together, him hugging her as she walked.

i spent the rest of the night (and days that followed) afraid for her, hoping he wouldn't hurt her that night and that she'd be safe. worried that she would stay with him and not know her true worth - not know that she deserved better than that. and he deserved to get some anger manage help and learn to treat her like the gift he knew her to be.

bad girl, dirty girl, dirty talk, dirty bitch, freak

if sex is normal why are girls given bad degrading* names?

why not call us amazing, awesome, best, fantastic?

of course like every coin there is a flip side which is chicks who don't mind, *and even like, to be called those names. they wanna be known as a freak in the bed (me too sister). but let's be real, it's not like we're off-setting that side of the coin with the more inspiring side of the coin. like being awesome in bed.

why are we something gross (like slugs) if sex is perfectly normal for girls to do?

we use the word dog in reference to a person who cheats because dogs sleep around and are not sexually loyal.

we see people who are con artists as cockroaches or rats, because they can't be killed and they're a germ fest among society.

if y'all (guys) want girls having sex to be ok you should probably come up with some more flattering names, names that reflect that fact that us having sex with you is a good thing - not dirty, bad, freakish or bitchy.

all muslims are terrorists

all muslims suck, they're terrorists who marry under age girls, force their women to cover up, stone their women to death, come to other countries and stop christmas and national anthems...

they invented gonzo porn, torture porn, rape porn, revenge porn, festivals sluts, and songs that say 'i'll give you something to split your ass in two'... oh no... wait... that's us.  we do that.  us westerners.  us white & black men.




we terrorize our women because they dare to friend zone us, get girls drunk at parties so a group of guys can raped them, rape and sexually harass collage girls, rape 12 year old girls in public while people stand around watching, rape drunk 14 year old girls and film it to share around, then let our guys off when they rape our women because it somehow isn't their fault they're rapist...



75% of the worlds porn is made in the US, gonzo porn, the worst most sickest fuck to ever exist, is a US invention... pornography is a US invention (larry flynt) and there are a million billion non muslim men watching this shit... we create violently sexual / sexist shows like got that reinforce the rape culture we are perpetuating, we use our female performers sexually to titillate and make copious amounts of money for men....


crush videos, bdsm, sexually explicit music videos, sexism towards girls/women, sex trafficking (made worse by western men within the UN), king hitting, gun massacres... all these terrorizing things western men do...

while crapping on about how bad muslims are.  me thinks it's a case of the pot calling the kettle black.

open letter to pitt bull cuban amercian singer

i'm pretty sure after listening to your song international, pitbull, that you're into prostituted and trafficked women (girls). a bold statement i know! but let me explain how i've come to this conclusion.
 
once upon a time i heard the song throw your hands up and liked the song and the other spanish singers and thought you were alright.
then i saw your video don't stop the party with you, dressed, with naked women rolling around on a bed with you. straight away i knew, urk, this guy sexualises women and i wished i could take your cousins, your mother, your grandmother, any sisters or daughters you may have, aunties, nieces and put them naked in your video clip and see if you like how it feels to exploit your family members instead of other women.
sexual exploitation of women so you can make money. yuk!

your song international is you bragging about how much money you have and how many women you've had. money and women make you a success in your mind.

"100gs for sure
touched down everywhere
hit a home run everywhere
in romania  she told me pitt you can have me and my sister
down in dr they're looking for visa's i ain't taking credit cards if you know what i mean
en cuba la cosa esta dura but the woman get down if you know what I mean
en colombia the women got everything done but they're some of the most beautiful women i've ever seen
in brazil they're freaky with big ol' boobs and their thongs, blue yellow and green"

the countries list above are pore countries where women are forced to sell themselves sexually for money just to survive. quite often they're forced into prostitution and trafficked and here you are, pitbull, admitting you've been with women who are so desperate for a new life they're having sex with men in hopes for a visa. cuba, your home country, where the women get down (i supposed that means go down on you) and you're okay with using them in this manner because you get to them write a song about what a man you are because you've got money and this pays for you to have sex with women all around the world.

how about you stop treating women like they're your sexual playground and put some of those 100gs into stopping the abuse and sexual exploitation of these women. you made it out of cuba now go and help other women trying to escape extreme poverty instead of using your money as power over them. 

racism vs sexism

got is a popular series with lots of people talking about it at gatherings, on the internet, social media and such.

if got contained such words like nigger, boon, ching, redskin, gook, wog, a'rab, towel head (you get the picture) or if it contained outright threads against these people .. there would be an uproar. the only people who might like the show are racist caucasians who think that type of thing is funny or appealing (basically the type of people who watched romper stomper and saw it as a guru movie to follow and live by). people of colour on the other hand would hate the show no matter 'how great the story line'*.

the reason why there would be an uproar is because people of colour band together and agree on what is racist. think back to breakfast at tiffany's and the depiction of the stereotypical asian man.

mikey rooney's depiction of a stereotypical asian man vs sexism

where as women and men don't agree on what is sexist / sexism.
- people say *yes got is sexist and gratuitous but it's got a great story line.
- my son reads playboy or watches porn because it's normal for a young man to want to know about sex and the female body (even though porn is a terrible way to learn about sex / the female body).
- it's normal for men to admire the female body.
- i don't mind if my partner goes to strip clubs, i'm not jealous.

anti-sexism doesn't have anything to do with normality or jealousy. it is purely about treating men and women the same - just as anti-racism is all about people being equal.

it may be perfectly normal for men (and lesbians) to want to admire the female form and delight in full frontal female nudity - i.e. the (original) shining and devil's advocate. but where are the men walking towards the camera in all their naked glory? the only time i've seen this is in a helen mirren movie (go helen!) and even then the guy was not sexualised and the nudity was not gratuitous.

you never go to a male strip club and see men dancing around on table tops in g-strings, ladies going up and sitting at that table for a closer dance where the guy moves around removing the last bits of his clothing while she places money in his garter belt .. let alone getting a fully naked private dance with him in a private booth. the best the ladies get is the likes of magic mike (and even then the movie contained hits of gratuitous female nudity even though it was supposed to be aimed at women!). do you think there was any gratuitous male nudity in the shows strip tease or show girls?

people need to start getting on the same page when it comes to sexism and the basic rule of thumb is if you're not doing it to men then doing it to women is unequal and by definition sexist.

if we don't agree on what is right and fair and we can't win the battle.

custody rights and the legal system

i know a guy who had a relationship with a girl, nothing new or strange about that. the relationship carried on for a couple of years and during this time they did lots of drugs and had wild times. she got pregnant to him and already had another children to another man. he left her and fought long and hard to leave behind that scene, that life. years later and he's been on the path to mending and doing very well.

one day the ex dumps the kids on his doorstep. she's on the run from dhs and it's easier to run without kids in tow. she now has three children to three different men, none of whom have stayed with her because she's still in the drugo scene with no real means of quitting or getting any real help. you need money for rehab.

the children (including two that aren't biologically his) end up in his and his family's care for almost two years. during this time dhs catches up with her and she goes to prison for a while. before she goes to prison she tries to win back her children, taking her ex to court.

this is where the system is unfair and stupid. he has to pay for a lawyer to fight against her at the cost of around $700 per hour to prove that he is decent and fit enough to have the care of her children (his biological child). while she pays for nothing and doesn't have to prove she's fit enough because the law favours the rights of the mother no matter how screwed up the mother is.

this woman and her family are well known to dhs and have been in the system for years for neglect, abuse and drug related offenses and still, legally, the children are hers and she has a right to them. while the father who has a steady job, family support and has worked hard to be a decent and contributing citizen to society has to pay to prove he's a better parent.

there is no three strikes and your out. three strikes and you lose the rights to your children. three strikes and the children automatically get a better life living with more balanced caring able people. even her with her drugged up way of being she doesn't have to fork out a dime to prove she has legal rights to her children.

update: the father, who had the child in his custody for many months while the mother was in jail, ended up giving the child back when the mother got out of jail. he said that having a child interfered with his life and work. sadly even when fathers get custody of their children they sometimes realise how hard raising a child is. now the child is back with the abusive neglectful mother.

the handing down of family violence

once upon a time dark skinned people were taken hostage and shipped all across the globe to be used as slaves. there they were mistreated, beaten, abused, raped and killed. men and women formed relationships in this environment and raised children. those relationships would have been strained and full of anger, hurt and rage. man not being able to get his master back, having been stripped of his manhood and humanity, he'd have hated for his wife to disobey him and likely turned to violence as a way of redeeming his masculinity. the women, also mistreated by master and husband, would have taken their grief out on their children. those children grew up feeling the same way and doing the same things. taking out their pain and hardships on their family members.
come the 21st century and poverty is rampant, jail is very likely, little job prospects, lacking in education, drugs, alcohol prevail and inequality the violence continues.

once upon a time pore white folk were put in jail for stealing loaves of bread, handkerchiefs and other petty crimes. some went on boats to other countries and put in jails there. in jails they were stripped of their humanity and abused, neglected and mistreated. some prisoners as young as 9. growing up in that environment leaves them angry and bitter. those who get out of prison have to form relationships in the real world but they're angry and bitter and knowing nothing but injustice and brutality. husbands turn on wives, mothers turn on children. children grow up repeating the patterns they learned from their parents.
come the 21st century and poverty is rampant, jail is very likely, little job prospects, lacking in education, drugs, alcohol prevail and inequality the violence continues.

there are many nationalities who've had stolen generations such as, native amercians, aboriginies and the english in the 1900's. children who were taken from parents without consent, stuck in orphanages or homesteads, sexually abused, beaten and neglected. those children grew up hurt and damaged and not knowing how to be loved nor how to give love.

you take any nationality, jewish, chinese, middle eastern, native amercians, aboriginies, europeans, africans, and they all have something in common. we all have something in common! violent upheavals, wars, genocide, murder in the name of law or religion, violent backgrounds and upbringings that we're all trying hard to escape. but it's hard because violence is insidious and hard to escape when it's all you know.

time to start breeding a different type of human being.