upper class white chick privilege

i'm an upper class white chick. i've worked hard to get from my poverty riddled childhood to where i am. some of it is fluke. right place right choices. most of it's been keeping my wits about me, planning for the future, chasing the goals.

i'm one of the lucky ones. had access to an education, was genetically blessed with smarts.

for all appearance i'm living the life. i'm everything socially acceptable in the world. slim, pretty, nice car, nice house, money to spare. and yet when it comes to sexism i am middle rung on the ladder. above me on the ladder sit straight white men, gay white men, straight coloured men, gay coloured men. straight white men of course rule the world and get pretty much everything they want when it comes to sex. gay men don't have as much respect or power but they still get more than white females, if it wasn't for gay men we'd never see nude men.

men in my world see no inequality compared to them and me. even though they get paid more and have better superannuation. even though they have strip clubs where the girls go all the way nude while the best i get is skimpy jocks for $10 extra entry fee. they get to watch movies and shows where the slim pretty women are often nude to some degree while the men i see are dressed, and so fat and ugly you want them to stay dressed (picture the full frontal nudity in the latest Denzel movie while he, over weight and middle aged, hides behind a bed sheet - see even there a black man is getting more than me .. because he's a straight high paid male). i get to sit there watching these nude women, watching the men be aroused and stimulated, while i feel uncomfortable and resentful.

even with all my 'supposed' privilege i still don't get full frontal male nudity and in all my years of living things are getting worse in that regard, not better. straight men get to enjoy the naked beauty of females and get to add all their privileged bullshit excuses about why they get that and i (we women) don't. men have higher libidos, sex sells and men are more visually aroused. no! sex doesn't sell. only the sale of women does. sex sells because men get paid more and men get what they want! it's all bullshit excuses designed to keep me and others in our place.

so image then if you're a female of colour, some other race aside from white. you get even less privilege, even less rights. i feel bad for women coz if i'm as good as it gets for us women and i still have little rights compared to men then how the hell are my sisters meant to rise up and prosper?

black bitch ho

in my country aboriginals aren't treated as well as white folk. their health is pore. their education drop out rate is high. many live in poverty. they die much younger than white folk. they're accused of being shop lifters, of abusing their women, of being alcoholic dole bludgers scabbing off the system, of urinating in public (dumb since that also describes many white folk).

i can't say for sure what is going wrong but i've wondered what can we do to make their world a better place? how can we actually make a difference?

i imagine it's much the same with people of colour in america struggling to be equal with white folk and yet...

if our aboriginal brothers and sisters began to make it up the economic chain towards a better life only to disrespect their women folk i'd be outraged. and this is what we see happening with african americans within the american music and media scene all the time!

video after video made by black american males and females featuring their women in disrespectful sexual objectification and referring to them as bitches and hos. what the!!!!! how is this ok?

i remember oprah talking about the things that go on in the african american music world, saying pretty much that it is what it is, can't fight the system. left me speechless really because a lady in her position could make a difference had she gone against whomever she wouldn't go against, when making her statement.

why fight so hard for your freedom and liberties just to take away those liberties from your women?

lupe says it well in his song.

and this lady sums it up perfectly

why feminism doesn't work

the quick answer is coz no one agrees on what issues to battle. or what to fix first.

got women who believe women should be fighting for equal rights to go around topless like men or let women wear what ever they want even if others find it offensive or confronting. got women who think we should be modest and cover up even though others find that oppressive. got women who don't believe women should get equal pay because women take more days off to to deal with children than men, periods and other girl stuff. got women who think we shouldn't be telling other women off for being overtly sexual. got women who think overtly sexual is empowering an equals power over men (in some cases that is survival mode). got women who think all men are assholes who need to be shut down and ruled over. got women who like being controlled and dominated by men, who think that is a woman's natural role. got women who think 'if you like it you shoulda put a ring on it' and taylor swift songs equal teaching women to be weak and need a man. got people who think women already rule the world and just pretending that men call the shots because it works in their favour to lie about that. [if that's the truth somebody should let me know.] got women who think other women complaining about not being equal is bullshit 1st world problems. got women who think how we're living now is us finding and expressing our sexuality. got women who see that as man tricking us into thinking that is our sexuality. got women who think other women shouldn't breast feed in public, but it's ok for their men to visit strips clubs. got women who think we shouldn't talk about weight or body issues and not discuss what a healthy average really is; they think this is going against each other instead of helping each other.

how can feminism work when there are so many issues people don't agree on?

imagine of a woman thinking it's empowering to be overtly sexual

train story .. pretty lady

there was this woman on the train. i couldn't stop looking at her. she was beautiful to me. she had this michelle pfeiffer look about her. blond slim with perfect facial features. i wanted to be her. i wondered if she knew she was that pretty or if she didn't like herself. i wanted to go up to her and compliment her on her looks. wasn't sure if i should though and was too shy. i sat and watched her instead.

freedom of speech

freedom of speech or freedom to be cruel?

gone are the days when men got 50 lashings for stealing bread. gone are the days when people were tortured in dark dingy dungeons with hot oil poured down their throats for lying. gone are the days when people's head were publicly displayed on spikes as a warning to others not to break the law. gone are the people who inflicted this type or pain and torture upon fellow humans.

nope, this is the day and age of freedom of speech and rights for humanity. people aren't allowed to be cruel or break laws any more .. right?

love to say yes but all i can think about is

animal crush videos allowed to circulate the internet without prosecution and sick assholes who watch them.

animal cruelty in general, how we treat animals that will soon end up on our plates.

cyber bullies, aka gutless piss ants, who hide behind their anonymity and insult, belittle and threaten people to the point of making people commit suicide. yay you powerful person you being able to say that to their face .. not!

porn videos where young girls are actually raped, hurt and tortured again with sick assholes watching them.

stuff like harlem struggle and standing on a girls head while she's in doggy position and people who like to see and do this.

child pornography on the rise because there's too many sick bastards in the world, too many people catering to this shit and too many sicko fuck wits enjoying the pain and suffering of little children who didn't get to make the adult and informed choice of who they'd like to lose their virginity with!!!!

camel jockeys in the middle east, little boys stolen from their families to race  on camels for rich men and end up killed or badly injured, oh and they're also raped by the camel trainers just to you know .. make their life so much fucking better.

we may think we outgrew the dark ages but clearly many fuckers out there didn't get the memo and are just as cruel today as people were back then, and many other folks enjoy seeing and accepting this cruelty - other wise it wouldn't sell .. right!

all because .. oh yeah .. people have the right to freedom of speech and being into what ever they choose - so long as it's not hurting anyone, so people say. and of course money talks so if you're rich you'll get away with this shit by buying your way out of trouble.

well it is hurting others and what are we as a collective doing about it? what are our governments going about it? perhaps its time to remove those rights and freedoms people so enjoy and make them have to earn their rights back? do sick things on the internet = lose your internet rights. naughty adults should be treated like a naught child - you get punished by having your stuff taken away from you when you don't behave and you get your stuff back if you be good ? ? ?

open letter to nicki minaj

dear nicki
regarding your recent video song anaconda

i saw you on the ellen degeneres show and she was asking you why you think your video clip has reached a million views. you sat there playing dumb and claiming you've no idea why.

you can't be that stupid .. or can you? you know full well your video has had that many views because it's borderline pornography that millions can access for free (including children... not that you care). and the only reason people are watching it is because it's borderline porn. not because it's a great song with a great message.

there is no message in your song. there is no empowerment. unless you think wanting a big snake in your booty empowers others to... what? be free to choose anal? be free to be sexual? be free to have large bootys? boys get to share their desire for females with large bootys? coz boys have no say, already, in what size bootys they like so you're going to give them that power?

if not that what? what message are you sending out? that you've made it to the top? you're popular and everyone's talking about you? how does that empower others? what, we too could be as popular as you if we sell ourselves sexually? is that your message?

what about sending a message about equal pay, no disrespecting your sisters, what a female president might look like, no hitting your girlfriend, not selling your girlfriend or being pimps, you ain't no ones' bitch. the list goes on. if you really are so awesome and popular then give us a decent message. one worth listening to. one worth sharing. don't waste your talent and your time in the spot light on something that doesn't advance or empower us, your sisters.

i'm disgusted, horrified, upset and angry. it pisses me off when women sell themselves out in order to make money. it pisses me off when women sell others out in order to make money. and it pissed me off when those same women hypocritically tell other women to stand up for themselves (as you did).
i know you are a mere plastic puppet (with your plastic arse and boobs) and others are pulling your strings and turning you into some sexed up porn star (not pop star).

but you need to understand, as do other women in your position, that you're thrusting your sexed up adult world down the throats of babes (yes children are watching your adult content videos) so you (and those who own you) can be rich and famous. ask yourself do you really want girls and boys watching your video clip or listening to your lyrics and being inspired to copy your sexed up ways? do you really want teens wanting to aspire to be like you?

on top of that you slang skinny bitches at the end of your clip and that is super laughable because without your butt and breast implants you're the very thing you're slanging.

you and all the other pop princesses out there need to stop porning yourself out to the public. our little boys and girls, teens and others deserve better than the sexed up shit you're dishing out.


and kim kardasian. don't' get me started on her. for all her glam and glitz .. there is zero empowerment about her. what has she done for the world? what has she done to advance women or to inspire little girls?

note: there is a big difference in being sex positive and sexualised. one furthers women's rights, the other does not.

son, your sexuality has been hijacked 2

once upon a time men were taught by their fathers how to be impressive lovers, how to please a woman. men were taught that their manhood depended on how they could protect, provide for and please their woman.

this is evident in tantric , kama sutra learnings and others. once upon a time these books were handed down from father to son and learned fortunate men got to acquire such knowledge. the ignorant were just left to be lousy lovers. and these books weren't handed down as old time porn. it was never about what was in it for the man only or how the woman was there to service him, it was about being a pro at pleasuring the woman, knowing how to service her and what a man got in return for doing that. men must have known a happy wife equals a happy life.

these days sex is far less about pleasing a woman and more about 'all hail the mighty penis'. with pornography growing at a phenomenal rate and that porn becoming more and more about abuse of women, young girls and boys, it seems somehow 'the ignorant' have managed to become in charge of dictating our sex lives. and regardless of what they say nothing about porn is educational no matter how it's worded.

i've had my fair share of lovers and i've spoken to many many women about their sex lives and all of us have very similar stories to tell. sex with men is all about them and their penis. they no longer have the skill or the desire to really impress a woman. they no longer take their time or engage in foreplay, or learning about what makes their woman tick. for many males sex is about their own private (or not so private) porn show. it's all about sticking it in, wiggling it about then bragging to their mates about their sexual prowess (oh if only other men really knew how much their mates sucked in bed!)

sure there are great lovers out there. men who take the time to impress their woman because they pride themselves on being good in bed (and women who do the same). yet these men (and women) aren't the one's making porn (probably because they respect women too much). they're not the ones setting the scene for other men, they're not sharing their knowledge. they're not the ones in charge of teaching sex to other men and boys growing up to be men. for the most part their talents and views are lost among the ignorant who shout too loud and too proud.

it's the ignorant, abusive, women haters who make porn, the losers who can't get laid who make manga porn and sexualised female avatars, old blokes who choose making money over respect and equality for women, who will happily sexualise them to make $$$$$. i generalize, yes. these men could be awesome and have a high respect for women yet there actions and creations show otherwise - and they not always old because almost everyone has been taught this and most think it to be the truth and majority follow along because it's easier to do so. generalizations aside those making a prophet from selling women don't care about you .. they just want your money and they'll hurt whomever they want to get it. and we're raising the next generation of boys (and girls) to follow along.

and these are the people we are allowing to lead the way into modern day sexuality. time to stop and think about that