that girl who says it's ok for your bf to hit you

here's what i have to say about (name) and her rediculous message about girls should let their bfs hit them. it's a sign of love.

firstly dr phil handled her well, he posed questions to her she couldn't answer without perjuring herself. he said she was a hypocrit for wanting money from the bf who'd hit her, saying she'd drop the charges if he gave her the money. dr phil said she was a hypocrit for saying it's ok for him to hit her then wanting money from it, setting him up and lying to the public.

i thought she was more hypcritical because she charged him.

love, if it's ok for your bf to hit you, why did you charge him in the first place? is there a limit they can hit you? if so don't put up some video crapping on about how he didn't you hard enough so you broke up with him, because it means he doesn't love you enough.

she got caught out under dr phils intellect, research and whit. in the end she had no come back. when he announced something about her childhood she walked off stage. public conversation ended.

did she take the video down? apologize? admit she was a douche? admit it's not ok for a girl to be hit by her man, not ok for anyone to be hitting anyone. that it's all cock and bollocks when she says she dumped him because he didn't hit hard enough.

patricia arquette speech

so much talk about her speech saying it was racist and gayist and all that jazz. saying it was just privileged white chick playing victim when what the african americans are dealing with is so much worse.

some dude (or dudess) made a video about it using statistics on how bad they've got it and i don't deny it. it's shit. it's cock and bollocks. but .. one's person suffering doesn't denote another, even when it happens more often. that just proves the shit is bad and needs fixing.

nowhere in patricia's speech did she say what others had gone through was trivial. what she did say is we've (mostly and many women) have supported people in those positions, minorities, the mistreated, hard done by people. we've supported the down and out. we've fought for them.

to my mind, the only way to succeed it is to join together. all of the misfortunate. join in and say the same message. it's not good enough. i love hearing about the truth of what is happening to others and i'm glad that dudess put it out there. it gives us knowledge and something to fight for.

don't fob the white chick off because she's white and doesn't suffer what and how you suffer. she still suffers and understands suffering and wants change just as much as you do.

girls protect yourselves

a few nights ago a young girl, masa vukotic, was stabbed to death while walking through a park near her home close to 7pm at night.

since then the media has done it's usual twist airing things like females, they shouldn't be alone in parks (mick hughes). don't walk alone at night, don't wear headphones, don't take public transport alone, don't wear certain types of clothing. there always seems to be this onus on the female's part to not be in the wrong place at the wrong time. us females should keep ourselves safe from predators as best we can.

some agree saying it's being precautious because men will be men. mishel laurie (the project) says 'i'm going to continue to tell my daughter to lower her possibility of being in a vulnerable situation.'

being told we must stay inside to keep ourselves safe feels like step back into the olden days. it's like being told we're almost at fault if we dare to leave the house then get attacked. i understand caution. we all have an innate ability to be weary and be precautious. but when it's implied masa should not have walked alone at night time because that is what got her killed, it's completely misleading. what got her killed was a a man intent on harming someone that night.

that's what gets all people killed. someone being intent on harming someone. considering majority of females are attacked in their own homes by men who supposedly love them, i fail to see how telling us to stay home and not walk around at night time is actually being precautious.

i disagree with meshel completely when she says surely it's easier to tell females to stay safe than it is to tell men not to hurt us, because the fact is we haven't tried teaching men that. whereas we've been educating women for decades on how to be safe and it's not working. men are not educated or their emotions explored around their propensity towards violence and it's been that way for a long time. they're not taught where to seek help if they do feel like hurting someone, they're not taught to seek understanding from another male friend who can maybe calm them down.

instead we continue to focus on what the females can do to remain safe. time for a new strategy!

addictions

addictions are a funny thing.

there are acceptable ones and non acceptable ones.

alcohol - yes

recreational drugs - no

legal medications - yes

food - we're still in debate, growing sizes say people are ok with it

coffee - yes

porn - yes

child porn - no but this could be changing

gym - yes

steroids - we're in debate

odd addictions - like sleeping with your hairdryer - we think they're mostly harmless yet stupid

hoarding - no

mental (ocd) - we're opening to it

computer - still waking up to it

why are we ok with some addictions and not others?

The dumbing down of men

many men are unhappy and disgruntled with their lot. you talk to them and you’ll hear how they hate their jobs, their bosses, their wives, their lives. they hate having to work for the man for a fraction of what the bosses earn even though they work harder than the bosses. they have to work long hours to provide a roof over their heads and food on the table. they have to slave away for hours a day doing a job they hate til death / retirement do they part so they can earn the bare minimum to get by so they can line the pockets of the filthy rich. it’s compulsory to work unless you want to be a homeless bum or live off welfare. work is not a choice. work is not negotiable. it's expected of all of us. it’s frustrating to be a man trying to work your way into some type of middle class social status so you can pretend your life is better and you have more rights. you have a couple of choices; be a doll bludger who can hardly afford to exist, work your ass off to become middle class with a house, car, wife and kids, work extra specially hard (or skill / luck) to make it into the rich class to become one of the rich assholes you (and the world) despises so much. you hate them so much because they monopolise everything. control everything. dictate everything. decide how you will and can live. in fact the only reason you have to work is to line their stinking rich pockets while you struggle with the price of fuel, bank fees, rising bills, rising interest rates, tax rates and all the other bloody rates in the world, that exist jut to line the pockets of the filthy rich.

men unhappily working their asses off so they can kind of almost keep up with the jones’s without any great deal of hope that life will get that much better when they’re there. men who unhappily work knowing they will never even remotely get there and their world will never be better. even if you reach some semblance of middle class you’ll find that life still stinks.

then there is divorce where women win most of the custody battles even though the court system is run by and created mostly by men. in short the whole world is rich men dictating the lives of pore to middle class men and men having to suck that shit up because there is no other way around it. there is no other way of making the world some fairer better more equal place.

so what do men do to cope? they drink, they use drugs, they watch porn, they treat women and children like shit or punching bags or sex toys. they feel angry and resentful and take it out on those around them. king hitting pore souls in the street. get addicted to ice. visiting prostitutes and wanting to do the horrific things to them they've seen done to women in the porn vids they’re addicted to. they sext on facebook, send dick selfies to women they have befriended in hopes to have some sex talk while wanking off to words on a screen – because it made them forget about their shitty life for a moment. the porn that they watch, the drugs they take, the alcohol they drink, the food they each to forget about their dreary lives lines the pockets of the filthy rich who boxed them into the shitty lives they live in the first place. they even create the shitty porn and traffic women and children that hurts and damages them in the hopes that they’ll make it into the filthy rich group who set them up to fail in the first place. they’re depressed, they’re taking pills for mental disorders, pills to keep their dicks hard, pills to make them happy, pills to make them forget and become zombies.

what do the rich do to keep the masses happy and content and not thinking about how shit their lives are, how unfair it is to work for the sole purpose to line the pockets of the filthy rich? they create addictions, drugs - legal and illegal, alcohol, gambling, fast food, coke, sugar, sexism, sex sells, more strip clubs, more porn mags, more pop / porn stars, more men’s mags, more men’s shows full of tits and bums, more prostitutes (and if they can’t get more they force more women into it by trafficking women), they invent porn in all arrays of fetishes and interests, violent, abusive, hurtful, damaging, addictive. all to line their own pockets and shut the people up so they don’t argue against the unjust world they live in.

men viewing child porn is on the rise. men who abuse their partners is on the rise. men who abuse drugs and alcohol is on the rise. all because they’re pissed off about their lives, pissed off that they feel powerless to change anything for the better, pissed off that they can’t “pay back” that prick of a boss who treats them like shit even though without them the company wouldn’t exist, pissed off that women are now wanting and demanding more rights while the rights of men is still woefully inadequate.

it’s like we’ve reached some crisis point, created some armageddon within humanity. too many people for the government to actually take care of. too many people who require mental health care, too many abused women who require assistance, too many children who are abused and lost in the system, with minimal funds actually put into helping citizens, while billions of dollars are spent inventing ways to keep the people quiet and further line the pockets of the filthy rich.

are you really a good person

when you speak to people and ask them if they think they're a good person, a caring person, a descent person, most will say yes. they think because they care for their friends and family, defend their family, look after their children, wives, husbands, pets. brothers, sisters etc. that they're good people. they think they're the kind of people who don't deserve to go to prison or be prosecuted and at the end of the day their head hits the pillow and they sleep easy at night.

those same people may do any of the following:
watch animal crush videos, watch child porn, watch porn in general (dehumanizing), bet on race horses that are fed drugs to make them better yet damages their bone structure and health, watch dog / cock fights, verbally coerce girls into having sex with them when they don't want to, go to a party and let others rape a drunk girl, try to have sex with a sleeping girl, hate muslims, hate other races, hate gays, hate sluts, abuse members of their families, cyber bully, visit asian child sex brothels, talk about raping girls who friend zone them, bet on camel races that use child slaves, want to take exs for all their money, use the children as leverage to hurt each other in a divorce, lie and back-stab other people, accept factory farming and animal abuse, rape and pillage the earth for profit, rape and pillage the community and people for a profit .. the list goes on. the list of ALL the things we people do in a day, accept in a day, don't fight in a day, and still class ourselves as descent citizens.

i put it to you that you aren't nearly as descent or a good a person as you think you are. in fact you're really just another asshole swimming in a fetid sea with other putrid assholes. and those assholes make you feel less of an asshole because they're just as shit as you are.

porn and you

it isn't fun being me. isn't fun being the only one among my friends who is outspoken about the damage of porn. the only one who can see it for the bullshit it really is. my friends say things like 'the girls choose to be there for the money and stuff so why is it wrong to watch it'. most men i know with wives and daughters would hate for either to say they want to be a porn star yet see it as ok to watch someone else be one. if i told my friends i was a porn star, aside form thinking i'm a hypocrite, many would judge me as less than. my family would disown me even though i'd hazard a guess that some have watched porn in their life time. men who are interested in porn would suddenly take the wrong kind of interest in me, assume i'm no longer human and up for anything and everything. in the very least ask about my movies and hope to see them. yet they'd hate for females they know to be in the industry. is it ok to accept an industry you wouldn't want to do yourself or have others you know take part? i don't think so.

then again being the type to want someone you know to be in the industry, like dads who pimp their children out as child porn victims, trafficking your girlfriends or pimping out your girlfriends so you can make money isn't ok either. it isn't being open minded if you're doing it for ulterior motives, like bragging to you mates about your girlfriends job, or hurting the person just to make profit.

for the most part noone really chooses to be a porn start. little girls don't grow up saying i want to be porn star when i grow up. those who choose this industry do so because they're desperate for money. being desperate for money makes your actions a decision not a choice. many in the industry are abused, hurt, tortured and dehumanized. anyone thinking it ok to support this industry by watching, buying and sharing it is an asshole of a human being and needs to understand the repercussions of buying into this industry. an industry they don't want their own loved ones doing, an industry that hurts those they're watching. buying into this makes them not a nice person no matter how decent a person they think they are.

yet my friends don't get this. they think i'm a prude, that i'm judging them for liking porn, that i think i'm better than them because i don't buy into it. i'm not a prude, i don't dislike people who like porn - i just wish i could make them see it's not an descent humanitarian thing to be into, to do to others, and i kind of do think i'm better than them .. better educated at least. because i know shit about the sex industry they all choose to ignore.

friends grow distant because my views offend them (only because they know they're guilty of buying into it, or know someone who knows someone. we all know someone) but the bigger picture is girls are hurt and damaged by this industry and if we are really descent human beings we wouldn't allow that to happen by purchasing or viewing the shit.